Why we Have to Make Lemonade From Lemons

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 In marketing there is such a thing as the 'AB Test'. You run two differently worded ads to see which version sells more product.

What if life were a series of AB-Tests, in which different experiences and outcomes emerged periodically to test our resolves, our responses and our resilience?

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After all, isn't practically every situation we face an alternative to a different one? You lose a contract, and this is the opposite of winning a contract. You crash the car, the alternative version was that you hit the brakes in time, etc...

But the contract you win may be a gilded cage, locking you into a repetitious cycle of mundanity and frustration, while the contract you lost may free you up to explore a range of new opportunities and potentials both within and without of yourself. The car you hit may trigger a meeting with the partner of your dreams. 

Part of the life Coach's role is to assist a person to explore such ideas for personal development.

If you subscribe to the notion of parallel universes, in its basic form, in one version you won the contract in another you lost it. The result of either outcome could be elation or despair. But one thing is common here. Each outcome is merely that. An outcome. It is the emotional investment we place in the outcome which is equally, perhaps more  important here.

This means that regardless of the dimension we inhabit, it is advisable to consider every event an AB test - or, a means to evaluate the effectiveness and impact that your emotional response is to each situation.

Who knows? You might 'skew' the result, by  working on the premise that your situation has the seeds of greatness sown within it. It will certainly affect your motivation in positive ways.

The less 'beautiful' partner who becomes your eternal love. The stop for fuel that means you missed that fateful flight. The underachieving child who does not have a nervous breakdown. All of these are outcomes which could have been different and more catastrophic. Even though you gave yourself a hard time when they happened.

Why not actively seek the bright side? It makes no difference to the initial situation except - you felt happier in the moment. Some people may pathologise optimism. You've heard those who will dismiss optimism as 'PollyAnna-isms' or 'Naivete'. But really, what difference does it make if you refuse to be bent, broken or disrupted by events when you you refuse to interpret them as disastrous?

There are two sides to every coin. As an intellectual exercise try to see if you can flip an apparently bad situation and see the brighter side of it.

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