The Car in The Swamp - It will Always Resurface

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Do you recall seeing 'Psycho' when you was a kid? Do you recall the scene in which a murderer put a body in the boot of a car then drove it into a swamp? 

Above: Psycho: The Car in the Swamp

Satisfied, the perpetrator would watch the car sink from view. Sometime later, when law enforcement were investigating the disappearance of the victim, the car popped up, unbidden. 

How many of you kind of knew this might happen?

During my lifetime, I've come to refer to any supressed or guilty self-delusion as 'The car in the swamp.' The car may be kept under by any number of devices, from addiction to good old fashioned 'Bad Faith', but will always emerge when the time is right.

Certain condition may be crucial to this. Listening to the excellent Bedros Keullian he described what his therapist cale the 'H.A.L.T.' description - this describes how th ecar is most likely to pop up out of the swamp.

https://youtu.be/qwL2aqs2F38?si=60UYfM-2_EZn1d4t

When you are either:

Hungry - Angry - Lonely - or Tired. - This is when a suppressed feeling is most likely to emerge.

This can be the petulance you feel if you don't 'get your own way' - and these suppressed feelings may have been driven into the swamp when you were four years old. 

It may be a trust issue from a previous relationship, an 'I'm not good enough' feeling from a bad school report card. It may be 'daddy issues' or 'mummy issues' - it may be feeling unable to match up to expectations because you didn't get religion like your parents did.

It may be triggers for addictions. Addictions that themselves have emerged to try and keep the car in the swamp - based around abuse, or infidelity or seeking a band-aid for a major laceration.

I think there is a hierarchy of  need here. For example, in extreme cases, psychotherapy, or counselling may be the best option. As a life coach, I would be the first to advise and refer anyone who requires this to a registered practitioner. Addictions counselling, Alcoholics Anonymous, helolines all exist for these reasons.

However, in the field of personal development, I am convinced that the vast majority of people would benefit from a life coach who can help a client to get out of their own way. Many of the subtle self-sabotaging we all engage in would be eradicated if we could get an objective eye to call it.

So, if you are experiencing self-sabotage, an addictive tendency, a pattern of self-sabotage, why not seek the guidance and input that a life coach can offer?

My offer to you is Get a first coaching session for free. If you are local let me buy you a coffee! Get in touch on:

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